How to be an independent woman
My next point is independence. How can a woman become independent?
In order for someone to become independent you first need to understand and love yourself as I said in my previous post.
Independence can be classified into three.
Mental independence, financial independence and emotional independence.
Mental independence the other underrated thing and I don't hear people talking about it enough is mental independence. It is all about having your own independent thoughts, ideas, beliefs and whatever you call your own.
Mental independence can bring so much change in your life, it is a really beautiful thing to practice. And how can you practice it? Listening to what your thoughts have to say is the first thing, understand it then harness it, if you want to make yourself a better, let the mind grow.
Our brain is like our muscles, if you workout, your muscles become strong and look good. At the same time if you don't they become weak and not so good looking. Same goes for our brain, if you don't feed your brain with some knowledge(it can literally be anything) it will become weak and numb. You know that feeling you have at the beginning of a school year, you are so uninterested in your classes and your brain doesn't seem to be understanding anything. Do you know why that happens, it is because of the past two months of summer. Once school ends we drop everything, go party, hang out, have fun, movies and so on... then our brain just numbs. Then when we try to start again it becomes difficult. The brain needs exercise too! Read books, news papers, magazines, watch documentaries, challenge the mind everyday. For the women who say they don't have time, take that 10-15 minutes of your time that you spend on social medias to read something instead, watch something instead, do this everyday for at least 10 minutes and it will become a habit, PRACTICE once again. Nothing comes in a day, everything is practice!
Be open to different ideas, embrace your mistakes and learn from it, don't get caught up for something that has happened and was meant to happen. Learn and move on! Do not let it be an obstacle for the greater you that you are working on. Respect others opinions, listen, learn and pass your knowledge, ideas, thoughts. Don't copy others! I hear people saying "There is always someone who is going to be better than you", I disagree, someone might seem great at everything, but no one is perfect! There are things that you are better at the other person don't have, and there are things that the other person is better at doing that you can't. Now, see that's the beauty of it, because you teach each other things that you lack. Now, what is more beautiful than that! Us women should practice to help each other up instead of tearing each other down. Don't depend on others opinions and ideas, learn from it definitely but don't follow someone's ideas like a puppy. Be able to decide for yourself ask advice if needed but don't let others make that decision for you. Be your own leader!
Financial independence is having your own source of income, big or small. Just have something of your own. I believe that everyone in this world is created with some potential that will only come out if you deeply look with in yourself and work your soul out of it. The most successful people in the world are no different from you, the only difference is they took the time to understand themselves and their dreams and dug out that potential they were created with, that's it! So, whatever your status might be whether you're the richest woman alive or not, have that something. Money is not and should not be the number one thing in your life because it is not a constant thing, as most things are not, it comes and goes, but let's be honest money gives you some kind of confidence. Have you ever bought something with the money you got by your own hard work? Do you remember how you felt after, that proud feeling in yourself and believing if you can do this you can do anything. Yes! that is the kind of feeling money gives you, when earned by your own hard work. And if you have never experienced that feeling and you are dependent on someone for financial support but you want to get out of that, it is time for you to change your mind set. WORK! whatever there is to work, don't undermine any job, don't say this is below your standard when you can't yet provide for yourself, WORK! whatever it might be,as long as your physically capable of it and it does not involve illegal actions WORK! get that something to call your own. Don't ever be ashamed of what anyone thinks or says.
Once you start doing that everything starts to grow and change. This universe pays us back what we have given to it, just hold on and do what you have got to do.
Emotional independence can be in a relationship, friendship, family relationships. For this one I'm going to focus on relationship independence. Relationships are a good thing. It feels good to feel something more, something special about someone. A relationship doesn't mean you have to lose yourself in the process, it is all about building each other up and learning from each other, making sacrifices at times. But, that is not always the case, sometimes we think we are in love when we actually are just emotionally dependent. We are scared to be alone so whatever the relationship brings, we deal with it, even though we are losing ourselves piece by piece. Sometimes we know it is unhealthy but we continue anyway and sometimes we just don't know! We might hear it from people around us, but we are reluctant to accept because we think we are sure of what we feel. I am a big believer of discussing things out whenever there is a fight or a misunderstanding , but at times it just never seems to work. You will feel so dependent on the other person that you think letting go will destroy you, but it will not! So, my advice is don't get caught up in unhealthy relationship, even if it's hard to let go, try letting go, don't let your beautiful self go through so much for a relationship that is not worth it. When you practice loving yourself, you will start to understand your value, so whomever undermines that is not worth your attention nor your valuable time.
In order for someone to become independent you first need to understand and love yourself as I said in my previous post.
Independence can be classified into three.
Mental independence, financial independence and emotional independence.
Mental independence the other underrated thing and I don't hear people talking about it enough is mental independence. It is all about having your own independent thoughts, ideas, beliefs and whatever you call your own.
Mental independence can bring so much change in your life, it is a really beautiful thing to practice. And how can you practice it? Listening to what your thoughts have to say is the first thing, understand it then harness it, if you want to make yourself a better, let the mind grow.
Our brain is like our muscles, if you workout, your muscles become strong and look good. At the same time if you don't they become weak and not so good looking. Same goes for our brain, if you don't feed your brain with some knowledge(it can literally be anything) it will become weak and numb. You know that feeling you have at the beginning of a school year, you are so uninterested in your classes and your brain doesn't seem to be understanding anything. Do you know why that happens, it is because of the past two months of summer. Once school ends we drop everything, go party, hang out, have fun, movies and so on... then our brain just numbs. Then when we try to start again it becomes difficult. The brain needs exercise too! Read books, news papers, magazines, watch documentaries, challenge the mind everyday. For the women who say they don't have time, take that 10-15 minutes of your time that you spend on social medias to read something instead, watch something instead, do this everyday for at least 10 minutes and it will become a habit, PRACTICE once again. Nothing comes in a day, everything is practice!
Be open to different ideas, embrace your mistakes and learn from it, don't get caught up for something that has happened and was meant to happen. Learn and move on! Do not let it be an obstacle for the greater you that you are working on. Respect others opinions, listen, learn and pass your knowledge, ideas, thoughts. Don't copy others! I hear people saying "There is always someone who is going to be better than you", I disagree, someone might seem great at everything, but no one is perfect! There are things that you are better at the other person don't have, and there are things that the other person is better at doing that you can't. Now, see that's the beauty of it, because you teach each other things that you lack. Now, what is more beautiful than that! Us women should practice to help each other up instead of tearing each other down. Don't depend on others opinions and ideas, learn from it definitely but don't follow someone's ideas like a puppy. Be able to decide for yourself ask advice if needed but don't let others make that decision for you. Be your own leader!
Financial independence is having your own source of income, big or small. Just have something of your own. I believe that everyone in this world is created with some potential that will only come out if you deeply look with in yourself and work your soul out of it. The most successful people in the world are no different from you, the only difference is they took the time to understand themselves and their dreams and dug out that potential they were created with, that's it! So, whatever your status might be whether you're the richest woman alive or not, have that something. Money is not and should not be the number one thing in your life because it is not a constant thing, as most things are not, it comes and goes, but let's be honest money gives you some kind of confidence. Have you ever bought something with the money you got by your own hard work? Do you remember how you felt after, that proud feeling in yourself and believing if you can do this you can do anything. Yes! that is the kind of feeling money gives you, when earned by your own hard work. And if you have never experienced that feeling and you are dependent on someone for financial support but you want to get out of that, it is time for you to change your mind set. WORK! whatever there is to work, don't undermine any job, don't say this is below your standard when you can't yet provide for yourself, WORK! whatever it might be,as long as your physically capable of it and it does not involve illegal actions WORK! get that something to call your own. Don't ever be ashamed of what anyone thinks or says.
Once you start doing that everything starts to grow and change. This universe pays us back what we have given to it, just hold on and do what you have got to do.
Emotional independence can be in a relationship, friendship, family relationships. For this one I'm going to focus on relationship independence. Relationships are a good thing. It feels good to feel something more, something special about someone. A relationship doesn't mean you have to lose yourself in the process, it is all about building each other up and learning from each other, making sacrifices at times. But, that is not always the case, sometimes we think we are in love when we actually are just emotionally dependent. We are scared to be alone so whatever the relationship brings, we deal with it, even though we are losing ourselves piece by piece. Sometimes we know it is unhealthy but we continue anyway and sometimes we just don't know! We might hear it from people around us, but we are reluctant to accept because we think we are sure of what we feel. I am a big believer of discussing things out whenever there is a fight or a misunderstanding , but at times it just never seems to work. You will feel so dependent on the other person that you think letting go will destroy you, but it will not! So, my advice is don't get caught up in unhealthy relationship, even if it's hard to let go, try letting go, don't let your beautiful self go through so much for a relationship that is not worth it. When you practice loving yourself, you will start to understand your value, so whomever undermines that is not worth your attention nor your valuable time.
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